They have been married for two and half years but have known each other since Peyer is a church-attending Lutheran, and Bixby is an atheist. Leah Nash for NPR hide caption. Maria Peyer and Mike Bixby are one of those couples who just seem made for each other. They hold hands when they sit and talk. They’re happy to spend the morning cooking brunch with their children in their home in southern Washington. Bixby and Peyer have known each other since they were young, but got married only a few years ago. Bixby and Peyer center with their four children from previous marriages. Peyer says that even though she and her husband believe different things when it comes to God, they have found ways to accept and support each other’s beliefs.
Dating While Black and Atheist
It is a rather controversial subject, and yet I think it is the responsibility of the preacher to keep his congregation informed on the major issues of the day, to bring the kind of tenets of our gospel to bear on these various issues. Now, there are at least three reasons why I feel obligated as a Christian minister to talk to you about communism. The first reason grows out of the fact that communism is having widespread influence in the contemporary world.
Like a mighty tidal wave, it has moved through China, Russia, eastern Europe, and now has rolled within ninety miles of the borders of our nation. And many of these people have accepted it as a new religion, and they are willing to surrender their total being to this system. A force so potent cannot be ignored.
But that doesn’t mean dating someone of a different religion doesn’t come differing beliefs—I am Baptist and my husband is atheist—haven’t.
Like most people, I have a handful of deal breakers — personality traits or lifestyle choices that, while I don’t judge the person for them, I know will make us romantically incompatible. Near the very top of that is someone who is very religious. That’s pretty much an automatic no-go for me. Just to be clear, if someone is serious about their spiritual practice, I think that’s great. However, I know myself well enough to be honest that the friction our different beliefs would cause would eventually lead us to be broken up because of religion.
So, to save my heart and those of others, I just don’t go there. Other folks, however, have not been so lucky.
3 Reasons You Should Marry Outside of Your Faith Tradition
Christian agnostics practice a distinct form of agnosticism that applies only to the properties of God. They hold that it is difficult or impossible to be sure of anything beyond the basic tenets of the Christian faith. They believe that God or a higher power exists, that Jesus may have a special relationship with God and is in some way divine, and that God should be worshipped.
This belief system has deep roots in the early days of the Church. Although radical and unpalatable to conventional theologians, Weatherhead’s agnosticism falls far short of Huxley’s, and short even of weak agnosticism :  . Of course, the human soul will always have the power to reject God, for choice is essential to its nature, but I cannot believe that anyone will finally do this.
That number includes everything from Roman Catholics and Russian Orthodox to Southern Baptists and Evangelical Lutherans. In other words.
I have never been a big fan of religion. Even at a young age, I thought God and heaven were pacifying ideas to keep people from being afraid of death. Though my judgments of Christianity and belief have evolved to a more nuanced understanding, my lack of faith has not changed. Marriage is all about compromise, right? He believed that an omniscient being watches over us, that when we died we would be together again in an otherworldly place, and that praying for people was an important part of caring for them.
He was Christian-lite: just enough for me to respect it, and more important, to live with it. He went on to voice all the conflicting ideas and emotions he had been dealing with as he scrutinized his faith, notions I had examined in my own spiritual quest that ended in agnosticism during my college years. Fred was traveling the same path, only 11 years behind me. But inside I was in turmoil. When it came to religion, we were suddenly in agreement.
Christians and religious zealots might say that deep down I was searching for a sense of peace that only the Lord can provide. Maybe, but I doubt it. But I did realize I liked the comfort of other people believing, especially my other half.
Ecumenical and Interfaith Marriages
And sadly, that may be true, but being a Christian is about so much more than just being a moral person.
My husband’s father and mother are Jews. My parents are both what Mr. Hitler would be pleased to call ‘Aryan’ Germans. I am an American-born girl, and the first to defend my Americanism in an argument; yet so strong are family ties, and the memory of a happy thirteen-month sojourn in the Vaterland a few years ago, that I frequently find myself trying to see things from the Nazis’ point of view and to find excuses for the things they do—to the dismay of our liberal-minded friends and the hurt confusion of my husband.
Here we are then, Ben and I, a Jew and a German-American, married for four years, supremely happy, with a three-year-old son who has his father’s quick brown eyes and my yellow hair. Ours was a fervent love match, made more fervent by the fact that we had to wait in secret for two years until Ben earned enough at his profession to support a family. He had known other girls and, as I was twenty-five before we married, I had had my share of other men’s attention.
Consequently our marriage was not the hasty, impassioned leap of two people soaring on the Icarian wings of a first love. That which was between us was calm as the night, deep as the sea; in the light of it we both knew that forever afterwards he would look upon other women, and I upon other men, as pale wraiths. We determined that no obstacle should prevent our union, and obstacles there were a-plenty as soon as our families learned our intention.
Married to a Jew, you will be barred from certain circles. They can say what they like about Germany, but democratic America is far from wholeheartedly accepting the Jews. Remember that Ben couldn’t join a fraternity at his university. Remember there are clubs and resorts and residential districts that bar Jews.
“Can A Christian Be a Communist?” Sermon Delivered at Ebenezer Baptist Church
I became a Christian on July 7, , after a very pleasant adult life of firm atheism. Nothing has changed, though! As an atheist since college, I had already mellowed a bit over the previous two or three years, in the course of running a popular feminist website that publishes thoughtful pieces about religion. Like many atheists who are generally lovely moral people like my father, who would refuse to enter heaven and instead wait outside with his Miles Davis LPs , I started out snarky and defensive about religion, but eventually came to think it was probably nice for people of faith to have faith.
I held to that, even though the idea of a benign deity who created and loved us was obviously nonsense, and all that awaited us beyond the grave was joyful oblivion. I know that sounds depressing, but I found the idea of life ending after death mildly reassuring in its finality.
After 19 years as a self-proclaimed “extremist”, Dan Barker renounced his faith – and he wants everyone to know about it.
I knew from the age of eight that I wanted to study history at Cambridge and become a historian. My identity lay in academic achievement, and my secular humanism was based on self-evident truths. There, I attended three guest lectures by world-class philosopher and atheist public intellectual, Peter Singer. Singer recognised that philosophy faces a vexing problem in relation to the issue of human worth.
The natural world yields no egalitarian picture of human capacities. What about the child whose disabilities or illness compromises her abilities to reason? Yet, without reference to some set of capacities as the basis of human worth, the intrinsic value of all human beings becomes an ungrounded assertion; a premise which needs to be agreed upon before any conversation can take place.
But I knew from my own research in the history of European empires and their encounters with indigenous cultures, that societies have always had different conceptions of human worth, or lack thereof. The premise of human equality is not a self-evident truth: it is profoundly historically contingent.
The fundamentalist Christian preacher who became an atheist
What I did find was like a barren field scattered with abandoned Blogspot posts from to Fascinating stuff. However, after some mild lurking and subsequent cackling, I was left with a few questions. What online outlets do they even have for this kind of social mingling?
He goes to synagogue on Rosh Hashana to please his mother, and during the rest of the year wavers between agnosticism and downright atheism. All this I.